Tuesday, October 28

TAKING BACK INSTAGRAM

Every time I post two (or, heavens to bets, three or four) photos close together. Every time I write something that isn't exactly inspiring or beautiful, which is most often. Every time my picture isn't styled pretty. Every time I write about Jesus: I lose followers.

Click. Click. Click.

Unfollow. Unfollow. Unfollow.

And I get it. It doesn't get me. People want to see and hear and read certain things when it comes to their thumb scrolling.

And that's okay.

I have come full circle with this whole social media thing. I am thankful for the way the Lord grabbed ahold of my heart in this area when He did, years ago, and I have never looked back.

My girl, Francesca Battiselli, sings it best in one of my favorite songs that I belt out to my kids almost every morning while cooking them eggs. It never fails to make me tear up when I hear them singing it too.



I don't need my name in lights. I'm famous in my Father's eyes. Make no mistake, He knows my name. I'm not living for applause, I'm already so adored. It's all His stage, He knows my name. 

I felt like this about blogging, before it sort of morphed into what it is today. I wrote about it a little bit here, and with ever changing hearts and technology, instagram is where it's at now. We all can see it. Paid posts, professional instagram photographers, beautiful little squares flashing on our phones and in our minds.

If you're feeling less than enough, not known, that you're not filtering the way you should be, and so on and so forth...

Here's what I want you to do:

Shake it off.

No really, shake it off, like Taylor would.

Take a deep breath, take your bra off (not on instagram though), and feel at home.

Let go of these unwritten rules that are in your head.

Who made those rules anyway and why is overgramming a word?

As with any social media: your worth is not, nor will it ever be, in a number. Your worth is not in how fast you can grow your following. For some reason, maybe because instagram is all the rage, this can seep into our souls and tell us differently.

There is nothing wrong with having a feed with only aesthetically beautiful photos and quotes. There is nothing wrong with promoting your business. There is nothing wrong with sponsored posts.

There is also nothing wrong with doing whatever the H you want and not what the instagram society of America is telling you to do. Growing your influence and posting minimalistic photos with faded filters isn't for the masses.

Let me tell you something today, sisters: Post when you want to post. Post all your slightly creepy cat photos (I'll close my eyes). Post blurry pictures. Post seventeen pictures of your kid's first loose tooth. Your friends will do a half eye roll, laugh, and love you still.

Post photos when you're sad if you need to. Talk about what you want to talk about. People will unfollow you, and people will follow you, and if you listen hard enough you will hear Elsa serenading you in the background. Can you hear it? Let it go, let it go... that perfect girl is gone... 

Love to love you, instagrammers. Do your thang.

Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. Matthew 6:19-20

49 comments:

  1. I was mentally formulating my own post along these lines just TODAY!
    Thanks for saving me the effort.
    Think my readers would mind if I said, "hey, I WAS gonna write about this, but really, Danielle said everything already"?!?!
    Friend. Thank YOU. xo

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  2. love. love. love. do whatever the h you want. somebody make that a print.

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  3. I read this sans bra so I feel like it was sign from the good Lord that I needed to hear this.

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  4. Danielle, I can't even tell you what a perfectly timely gift this post was to me tonight. So grateful for it.

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  5. YES YES YES. thank you for speaking truth over me!!

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  6. Yes and yes. The best. Also, Elsa is in my head now. Worse things, right? :)

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  7. This must be why your are one of my favorite Instagrammers. (Is that even a word?)

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  8. this is perfect. so spot on to how i've been feeling. :)

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  9. Amen, sister! So encouraging :)

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  10. Beautiful...and of course, I had to click over to instagram and follow you, because THIS is what I want my feed to be full of! Real life, love, and encouragement. That's it!

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  11. hallelujah praise amen and hell yea.

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  12. If I could fill this space up with praise hand emojis, I would. Thank you.

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  13. I think there are many reasons for losing followers, a way that I have thought about it is how I will unfollow someone. Or how I will choose NOT to follow someone. I think we all have different reasons as to why we choose to not follow someone, and we can only hope it's nothing personal both ways. I've noticed the jumps in gaining and losing followers but never given much thought to the losing. The one thing I can think of for me that is possibly why is that I have a lot of non-christian followers, and sometimes wondering if that is why I lose some because I'm too much about Jesus. I believe God has gifted me to build relationships in a profound way with non-christians, so sometimes I hold back or word things specifically for those followers. But then the Lord showed me, and I knew this, but He showed me in regards to IG, and blogging that there is no separating He and I. So I have no continued to do what I have known my whole life, just being true to me and being authentic. They can love or hate me it doesn't matter! And then I can really zooooom out and realize that even if I wasn't on IG at all, everything is still OK! IG isn't who we are but a platform we are fortunate enough to have a place to share our lives, which we all long to do. I more have trouble and struggle with wondering why "that cool person doesn't follow me", or thinking I'm not popular or cool enough,but that's OK too. There are many reasons for this and God has ministered to my heart in this way too. I'm so thankful for artists like this with these amazing songs we can relate too!!! As I mentioned in your IG comments, my Core Desire is Identity, because of abuse at a young age, so I have always wanted to be known and seen. That is a fallen desire that comes from brokenness, that God has healed. It's where my Beloved tattoo comes from that I got 3 years ago:) Being known and knowing Him alone is all we honestly need. We just have to weed through the broken pieces that tell us otherwise. I've learned the people that love and respect you are there, and that is what matters. Thanks for sharing Danielle!!! XO

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  14. I love this!! So so true. I think this kind of goes in line with my post a little while ago about social media having a false sense of reality. http://bit.ly/1vrhgja It's not about a number, it's about being ourselves and expressing ourselves the way we want to and not the way the world wants to see us. <3

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  15. Amen to this. I will keep on trucking and doing what got me here in 7 years with a beautiful company that supports and loves women. Gotta pay the bills and gotta do it in a way that makes ME feel fulfilled and honoring the promise within me.

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  16. Love this and So agree:) THanks for sharing and being so bold and brave and inspirational!!

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  17. Yes. yes. yes. I'm right there with ya on all of it! Thanks for the beautiful reminder!

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  18. Gosh, thank you for this. My pictures will never look as "good" as other folks', but it's my life and my IG and I love it!

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  19. Perfection. Love this so much! Why do we allow ourselves to get caught up in the madness? Thank you for the reminder.

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  20. I love our writing and your heart!!!! Best wishes sweet sister!!!

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  21. Great post!
    I posted something on IG that happened to me this summer, that was traumatic, and instantly a "friend" unfollowed me. It still upsets me greatly, to this day, that when I was at my lowest and posted a photo that wasn't pretty and staged, this person chose to discard me. I post real life. That's what I'm living. That's where it's at!

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  22. Thank you so much for this! I struggle with this a lot. While the name of my blog is "a happy girl" (after our daughter) I also have obstacles of living with an ultra rare disease that I sometimes share because I hope to inspire others in living their own story. The balance is very very tricky!

    xoxo.

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  23. Oh girl, this TOTALLY spoke to me! Thank you!
    Honestly, instagram can cause heartache as much as I love it....why all the pressure?
    Thanks for your words and your reminders! I am hoping that social media continues to become more and more positive and encouraging as the months and years go by.

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  24. How funny! I love your sense of humor on here!!! Wish I could meet you for realz! ;) I expect to see a weird cat picture going up- haha! Have a great day girlie! xoxo

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  25. Oh I just love this! Thank you! I'm with you 100%. I recently wrote a post with a similar message and you put into words a lot of the things I couldn't quite do. Well done...
    http://www.thebalancedlifeonline.com/finding-balance/instagram-and-the-comparison-trap/
    xo,
    Robin

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  26. Danielle, I love you and the bra comment made me LOL !!!! Xo. -linnea

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  27. I love this....thank you! :-)

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  28. i really needed to read this today! thank you so much

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  29. Man! This made me wabt to follow you on Instagram! Love this. All the things.

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  30. Wow - It's like you've been reading my heart!

    Recently, I've actually preFERRED to post precisely what makes people unfollow me... because most of the time? I have a hungry hunch that it's my very best stuff.

    (Less cutesy, more Christ - ya know?)

    Thanks for sharing and encouraging and 'gramming (like you do) and I'm so glad I popped by today. XO

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  31. You quoted Taylor AND Elsa and unabashedly said it was okay to not wear a bra. You're my new favorite person. Thank you for this.

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  33. Ok, but what if my Dad is an ass, and I'm not so much a star to him?

    Don't worry. Mom still believes in me.

    That said, I love this declaration.

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