Hi, I'm Julie from Breezy Acres Farm. My husband, Ian, and I are parents to two precious preemies and we are currently in the early stages of adopting through the China special needs program. You can read more about our adoption journey here, here, here, and here.
As somebody in the early stages of adoption, I do not claim to be an expert; but, what I do know is that it's already changing my family.
1. Adoption is forcing us to trust God to provide. We can't afford the 20,000 dollar price tag attached to adoption. Seriously–we can't. But God can and He is providing in big ways. I thought it would take months and months to raise the first $5,000 dollar payment and God provided it to the dollar in two weeks. We are planning on listing our "extra" car on Craigslist this weekend to cover homestudy fees and our mailman came to the house today and asked me if I knew anyone who was selling an old car. He's interested. Seriously??!
2. Adoption has given us a daily, eternal focus. How we use our money, time, gifts, passions, and energy matter. If we continue to go through life with the goal of being comfortable or ignore God's prompting to adopt, our lives could easily become selfish and meaningless. We have to obey. We do not want to waste our lives or simply store up treasures on earth. As a couple, we have had numerous talks about what matters in life. It's made material things less pleasing and satisfying as we focus on a little girl on the other side of the world in need of redemption.
3. Adoption has given me a deeper understanding of my own adoption through Christ. He didn't choose me to be His daughter because of what I looked like or how healthy I am. God adopts corrupt, sinful, rebellious people like me so that the praise will go to Himself and His grace. At the cost of the death of his son, he adopted me: failures and sinful tendencies included.
4. Through adoption, we can model the mercy of God. I question who our child will be and what needs he or she will possess. What if we get home and the special need is more than we thought? What if our child doesn't attach to us or we don't attach to her? What if ... In the midst of questioning and imperfection, mercy cries, "I will love you no matter what. " Christ offers unconditional love toward undeserving me. We commit to love the child God brings us, knowing that a deeper joy can be found on the other side of hardship. That eternity can take root in the soil of love.
I can honestly say that the adoption process has already proven to be a sweet time. I am learning so much and it's just the beginning. We are excited!
Thanks for having me, Danielle.
If you are thinking about adoption or are confused about why people choose to adopt, listen to this message by John Piper. It's thought provoking and some of the lessons I'm learning are a result of his sermon.