we want our boys to know and love Jesus, so we will teach them as best as we know how.
we want our boys to have good manners and obey so we will teach them the best we know how.
we want our boys to serve others and give of themselves so we will teach them the best we know how.
we want our boys to excel at the things they are passionate about so we will teach them the sports, instruments, writing, reading, whatever interest it may be, the best we know how.
we want our boys to save themselves for marriage and have a wonderful sex life with their future spouse so we will run and hide and never bring that topic up.
we want our boys to know that sex is created by the Lord and it is a beautiful thing inside of marriage so we will avoid having any conversations about that.
we want our boys to learn about their bodies and learn how sex works from us but, we will quickly decide against it after we realize, the night before the video is shown in fifth grade, that all these years we forgot to bring it up and now it's too late. or we're too embarrassed. their health teacher can answer their questions anyway, can't they? and maybe, NO, could it be that the kids on the bus have already told them?
that is what parents do now a days, right? i mean, it's either that or put condoms under the bathroom sink for them and their boyfriend or girlfriend.
there's something wrong with this picture.
maybe it's the upcoming purity conference with my small group girls, or maybe this show, or these statistics that have got me going. i'm gonna go out on a limb here and veto the talk. i'm gonna say let's change things up and educate our kids about sex like we would educate them about anything else we want them to know and hold close to their heart. and while i'm on a roll here, let me put a plug in for emotional purity, too. i was the girl with boy best friends for years and years and years. when you give of yourself it does not always have to be physically. it can be emotionally, too. and giving a piece of your heart to all those boys, or to all those girls, could take just as much of a toll as giving your body to them.
so here i am to say that we, my husband and i, will teach them.
and we will start now.
for every future awkward conversation i have with my 8 year old boy (or 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17… and however else long after that, or before that. yes, i said before. i think each parent will make the right decision for their own children as to when to move on to the next step of the sex conversations. you can do it, i have faith.)… it will get less awkward. and every time i answer a question that makes me red in the face i will be so very happy that i am the one getting red in the face. and i will be so very happy that my boys knew they could come to me with that question. i will be so very happy that we made this decision today.
this is not talked about enough to the youth of today… and i'm talking about the christian youth of today, too. maybe, even, gasp, especially them. it seems to me, that it is often times this hoo-rah! event for true love waiting, or for staying pure and then, after that night? silence. crickets, even. the difference we could make by switching things up and making this an ongoing conversation could be quite amazing. maybe, just maybe, we could let these precious kids know more about how what they do now will ever so greatly impact their future.
i first read about these books on my friend jamie's blog and i knew i had to have them. the series consists of four books: the story of me (ages 3-5), before i was born (ages 5 to 8), what's the big deal? why God cares about sex (ages 8 to 11) , and finding the facts: the truth about sex and you (ages 11-14). the books start off teaching children about Christ's love and goodness for all He has made, why babies need mommies and daddies, what's special about being a girl, what's special about being a boy and, dare i say it, proper names for body parts. no wee wee here, ladies. and they end with puberty, how our bodies change, how a woman gets pregnant, abstinence, love, dating, and relationships. the other two books cover everything in between. a little assistance in teaching about sex never hurt anyone, that's for sure.
invest time over these next however many years and teach your kids about sex -- how God created it to be.